Hi. My name is Andy Cross and I would like to thank and welcome you to this online dating guide for Single Christians.

I created this with you, a Single Christian in mind, because you are reading this page and hopefully the others too, for the purpose of trying to find your one true love online, a person who has probably eluded you in the outside world thus far, as was the case with myself for what seemed like an eternity.  

I believe it is more than likely you have arrived at this crossroad for similar reasons that I had 5 years ago on a Christian Dating site, which was to find someone with similar beliefs in God and faith in Jesus Christ, or in the case of my wife, a stronger faith (my ‘about’ page will give you a more detailed lowdown on that).

The dilemma we sometimes have as Christians in the offline world so to speak, is that it’s very difficult to judge with any degree of accuracy, if the people we not only meet, but take a liking to and want to go out with, have any faith in Christ or indeed any faith/belief per se.

God calls us not to yoke ourselves with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14), so unless you‘re one of the small percentage of Single Christians who successfully meet their future partner in a predominantly secular social environment, then it can be a minefield trying to find someone on the same spiritual journey as you, whatever point on that journey they may be at themselves.

Now that passage in Corinthians might sound horribly elitist and almost creating an ‘us and them’ mindset, but that is far from what the Lord is suggesting.

He is simply saying  that he longs for each one of us to find our soulmate, God didn’t intend for ’man’ to be alone, but it’s important for that person to at least have some faith in him; for a weaker faith can be nurtured into something stronger, a backslidden faith can be nursed back to full health, but this can be better achieved by surrounding ourselves with solid Christian influences.

To paraphrase (Deut: 22:10), God doesn’t wish to bring two ‘different’ kinds together, because it may harm the growth of the believer being with someone who has no belief and the non-believer because they feel pressured into being somebody they are not .

We’ve all heard the proverb ‘opposites attract’ many times, but where faith in Christ is concerned you’re skating on very thin ice by using that as an example to meet your future spouse.

With all this said, Amanda and I know Christian married couples where one half of the relationship has a damaged faith and has been in the spiritually wilderness for some time. This can place incredible strain on the relationship for sure and we know it can and does cause arguments occasionally.

God never said you wouldn’t argue or disagree, but if one of you is struggling with their faith, as we all do from time to time (we’re only human), all you can do is pray for their spiritual health to be restored. We know deep down that all our prayers are answered and always for the right reasons.

The key thing to remember as a Single Christian is that the Lord only wants what is best for you, but you can help him and yourself by ensuring you only seek out someone on the same path as you. It doesn’t matter if the two of you are at different stages on the path, just that you are both going in the same direction.